There is a nice story about Lord Shiva, his wife Parvati and their vehicle, the bull Nandi. Once, they were travelling on earth, Shivahad taken the form of an old man, and Parvati stayed young. As they were travelling, Shiva said to his wife: ''Parvati, please sit and ride on the bull.'' So she sat on the bull while Shiva walked alongside. The village folk who saw them, bitterly criticised, ''What a selfish woman! She is young and healthy and she rides while the old man has to walk.'' Shiva changed his mind. ''Parvati, it would be wiser that I sit and you walk.'' So Shiva sat on the bull's back. But then, people came with different comments, ''O look at this evil lazy man. He enjoys the ride and his lady has to walk on foot.'' Hearing this both of them climbed the bull. But people they met didn't stop to judge them. ''Look at this nasty couple. Both of them mercilessly use the poor animal.'' So, there was only one option left. They climbed down and walked again. Soon they met new people, who laughed at them, shouting ''What fools! They can have a bull as a vehicle and they are not using it.'' Straight away Shiva told Parvati, ''Enough. People will never appreciate or see what we do as correct.'So, we will do now what we think is right, and live the way we want to.“
The meaning of this story is to show, that you cannot please everyone, no matter how hard you try. So, taking into consideration your current situation, level of knowledge and information, do your best and do not look at what others may think or say. People can criticize from two reasons: to help you or to put you down. If someone says something you do not like, but this person loves you, then, it is reasonable to listen. If someone judges you and does not like you or seeing faults on others is simply his/her personal habit, forget it and move away from toxic opinions, which take your energy. The healthy focus should be always on trying to find in your life the meaning for yourself and expression of yourself.