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Love Magic and how it works: Searching for the inner happiness

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I was in love with a friend. We felt good being together, but from his side, there was nothing more, no activity, no signals. Did he reply to my sms? If yes, I was happy, if no, I was sad. My mood was changing rapidly from top to bottom, depending on what he did or didn't.
In order to get closer to him, I started to be interested in what he likes and makes, so that we have something in common, the things to talk together about. This was the worst thing I could do!!! I watched football, although, I didn't care and wasn't interested. I pretended interest in things he liked. Things, which I did or liked wasn't interesting for him, he just laughed about that. For him, it was foolish.
When I realised that I wouldn't be able to make it alone, I was trying to find some help. I visited one magician. She gave me a love spell and told me, that things will happen in 14 days. I did what she told me...and nothing happened. So, I contacted he again, she gave mi another, „stronger“ ritual and asked me, if I really want that partner, because this ritual was really strong. She assured me, that this time, it had to work and after 14 days, I should contact her and tell her, how was it to be together. Again, nothing happened. I didn't contact her ever again.
After some time, I found the website of White Magic. We started our cooperation. This time, I was asked to meditate and read spiritual books, to work on myself. After some time, Pavol asked me to meet him. So, we met at the bar. I thought, that somehow the love energy will „jump“ from me to him, he will fell in love with me and we start to date and will be happy forever. But things are not so straightforward and easy:-). After the meeting, nothing happened. He wasn't in love with me, so I wrote Pavol. Pavol was laughing, he knew what was my problem.
In order to make things happen, it is needed to work also on things, which are the reason, why is this situation happening. Everything has the deeper reason „why“. And most of the time, we cannot, or, don't want to see it. Love Magic, of course, works also without this, but guess, what happens, when you are thanks to love spell in relationship and you do, day by day things, which caused, that this relationship didn't work before?? Or, that without magic, these things and personality traits wasn't attractive for your dream partner???? Yes, these problems will be there and one day, they will cause, that your partner will leave you again! And if we don't change, we will carry the problems to the next relationships.
So, my experience has shown me, that I wouldn't achieve what I wanted, unless I worked on myself! To work on oneself, I recommend to start everyday Meditation and reading of spiritual books. It is necessary to understand, that in order to be happy, you don't need your partner. In fact, you don't need anyone! Happiness is a way of thinking, way of life, a conscious choice!!!
One friend, who was a clairvoyante, told me: „He will desire to be with you within 4 years. But that time, you won't be interested in him anymore…“
I didn't believe her. To wait, for him, it was no problem, because I couldn't imagine to live without him. The prophecy was wrong, for sure...
After some time, he started to be more and more interested in me. He was more active, wanted to kiss me and be with me... But, I was less and less sure about him. And one day, I realised, I don't want him. My friend was right! The reason was, that before, I was so in love, that I didn't want to see certain things, like, that he is not responsible, he drinks a lot and gambles... As I was more aware of myself, my value and what I need and want, I saw clearly, that this wasn't the partner, I was looking for. Suddenly, I knew, why it took so long! He wasn't right partner for me and it was just an illusion in my mind, that he can make me happy. I knew, that because of our differences, our life would not be happy and this cannot work!
That's why we need to start from ourselves, to love ourselves on the first place and not to forget ourselves to please our partner and gain his love this way! This cannot simply work, things work, when we are sincere to ourselves!

Read more about Love Spells.

Judgements

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There is a nice story about Lord Shiva, his wife Parvati and their vehicle, the bull Nandi. Once, they were travelling on earth, Shivahad taken the form of an old man, and Parvati stayed young. As they were travelling, Shiva said to his wife: ''Parvati, please sit and ride on the bull.'' So she sat on the bull while Shiva walked alongside. The village folk who saw them, bitterly criticised, ''What a selfish woman! She is young and healthy and she rides while the old man has to walk.'' Shiva changed his mind. ''Parvati, it would be wiser that I sit and you walk.'' So Shiva sat on the bull's back. But then, people came with different comments, ''O look at this evil lazy man. He enjoys the ride and his lady has to walk on foot.'' Hearing this both of them climbed the bull. But people they met didn't stop to judge them. ''Look at this nasty couple. Both of them mercilessly use the poor animal.''
So, there was only one option left. They climbed down and walked again. Soon they met new people, who laughed at them, shouting ''What fools! They can have a bull as a vehicle and they are not using it.'' Straight away Shiva told Parvati, ''Enough. People will never appreciate or see what we do as correct.'So, we will do now what we think is right, and live the way we want to.“

The meaning of this story is to show, that you cannot please everyone, no matter how hard you try. So, taking into consideration your current situation, level of knowledge and information, do your best and do not look at what others may think or say.
People can criticize from two reasons: to help you or to put you down. If someone says something you do not like, but this person loves you, then, it is reasonable to listen. If someone judges you and does not like you or seeing faults on others is simply his/her personal habit, forget it and move away from toxic opinions, which take your energy. The healthy focus should be always on trying to find in your life the meaning for yourself and expression of yourself.

Personal change and relationships

There was an older couple who were together for almost 40 years. They were like fire and water. The man was calm and an introvert. His wife was an extrovert, who talked a lot. She was very dominating, wanting to influence and rule every aspect of their life together. She was the one who always decided what needed to be done, what to buy, where to go, what was good or bad. She got angry easily and was only satisfied with her own solutions. The man was quiet, never argued and did what his wife wanted. He was in some ways like a small child, because he didn’t do anything unless his wife told him to. His wife cooked, cleaned the house, did the shopping, and even took care of the car service. And of course, she complained all the time that her husband did nothing.

One day, the wife wasn’t feeling well and she went to the doctor. The diagnosis she received was bad - she had cancer in her throat. She couldn’t speak properly and started having bad headaches. But she had a strong personality, and instead of giving up in despair, she started contemplating about her life. She wanted to know, why this had happened to her. She started to meditate and read many books about the spiritual reasons behind diseases and she started to eat healthy. Soon she realised many things she had not seen before. She saw how dominating she was, how she only considered her own opinions to be right, always criticising her husband about everything. And she decided to change herself.

She started to speak less, to calm down, to appreciate all the good aspects of her husband instead of criticising him. And guess what happened? Her husband changed too! He started to speak more, to be more active; he did things without being told and even learned to cook meals. As a result of this, their
relationship improved! They were not sure how the disease would progress, so they stopped doing unnecessary things, and many issues lost their importance. The cancer brought pain and suffering for them, but it also brought a hidden and unexpected treasure - change. And this change produced more love and harmony.

Don’t wait until Life makes the change for you! Accept change as a lifestyle, improving yourself continuously, learning from mistakes and walking towards more harmony and joy in your life and you will gain benefits far more than you can see now. You will receive many hidden treasures in the form of love, happiness and balance.

Living with a dream partner

My relationship began as a friendship. The difference between friendship and romance is, that in friendship you don't have to show just you beautiful and good face, but you can express what you feel and who you are. So, the friendship is more democratic, there is more freedom for both sides. And my friendship helped me to discover also my future husband's weaknesses, which irritated me, but in fact, I was ok with them…

First wedding is of course connected with many romantic imaginations, for example, how will partner change in a good sense, only because he loves me…and if he truly loves me, he has to prove it and therefore he has to know, what is in my head, what I think and what I wish…and he will, from this true love, do it! I soon realized (after some romantic pain of my heart), that this is not true. And thanks to my opinion, that one man is enough for whole life, in order to stay with him my whole life, I had to change my expectations and actions.

I have realized, that what is missing in my romantic opinion, is respect. To expect other human being to do exactly what I want is not respect. It is not even freedom, but slavery. My partner is not my dog. He is free human being and he doesn't have to obey no one, but himself!

This new opinion didn't stay just in a form of theory; I had to prove it also in practice. My husband always wished to travel, to visit distance places. And suddenly, he had possibility to go for several months to China. Without me. My heart was broken. I loved him so much, that I couldn't be without him one day. But despite that, I supported him and let him go without blaming him or trying him to feel guilty. After his departure two things happened. First: I gained my self-esteem and my husband had after three months realized, that he didn't want to be without me and he came home.

I sometimes wonder, how can we love each other, when we are so different. My main hobby and life style is my spiritual life. I am wondering, why I am here and want to know things behind. My husband is more pragmatic, he likes material world, he is curious like a baby, how things work and why and he is able to fix everything. But somehow we can meet in the middle, do things together, plan our future, raise children, travel, laugh and make jokes.

To make a relationship work in a happy way is basic level. But to have good relationship with two small kids, this is higher level. Duties concerning childcare have no end. Attention is focused on children. This is for me the test of my marriage. We both feel the lack of privacy, moments dedicated to us have to wait till are our kids sleeping. Lack of sleep means lack of interest in intimacy. Without proper sleep you become a robot doing basic things, which are needed. Despite all of these circumstances, there is still something behind it. A basic idea of our partnership…. Why it is good to be together, to grow together, to dream together. Marriage has to have some reason why it exists, some goal, which it can follow. This is similar to successful business. To be together because we love each other and feel attracted by partner is not enough. I think, my marriage has such an idea- to create harmony of two really different souls, to learn from the partner, to create something beautiful, what is more than can be created by both of us being alone.

The happiness in marriage is more about small things than big deeds. It is about saying words of love every day, being interested how does your partner feel today and why, what he thinks and why. It is also about taking deep breath while your partner is hurting you and not hurting back. Just stay in silence and forgive. It is about give him small graces like to bring him a tea while is sitting on sofa or bake his favourite cake. Or it is about being brave enough to say that you don't like how he behaves towards you or what is he doing, but to stay calm and loving.


The relationship is not healthy, when one has to count what his partner is giving to him and what he gives to her. And realizing, that you are giving more than you are receiving. Then, you are balancing on the edge and your partner can easily become your ex-partner! Relationship is not a shop and it hasn't aim to sell and buy. It is more about free flow of feelings from one side to another.


It is easy to write something nice, but it is harder to do it in real life, if you feel anger or jealousy. It is not easy to change behaviour patterns, which we have practised for many years, maybe decades. It needs patience and exercise. And will to do it. The reward is then gorgeous- deep and intimate relationship, space where you can express yourself and where you find support to become what you wish to become. Because you can have happy and beautiful relationship only if the relationship with you beloved is not the aim of your life! Only when it is just a base for your both, harbour where both of you can return to find support and love. Because relationship is not an entertainer, whose job is to offer you entertainment, your partner is not your servant whose job is to please you 24 hours a day! It is rather a fellowship of two free beings, which enjoy being together and are able to fight for this happy freedom by changing themselves and sacrificing their egos.